The following is a Facebook post about adulting from a long time friend, Michelle, to her daughter. I can remember when Michelle announced to her work family that she was pregnant with her daughter. We were so excited for her. I have seen her go through some adulting challenges of her own as a young wife and parent. Michelle is an extremely intelligent beautiful person herself. I have always admired her ability to handle herself in all situations.
adulting, it really sucks!
I’ll tell you what’s on my mind. Adulting sucks! It sucks at 43 and it sucks at 19. My poor baby girl, she’s so smart, so independent, so beautiful and realizing how hard adulting is. In one 60 second stare, I saw me at 19, her sister at 15, her (L) at 19, and her at every single age thus far, trying to figure out how to adult. If I had only been so smart at that age…
Do you remember that feeling when you went home after leaving to be on your own the first time? Remember when nothing was the same except everything was the same? Remember thinking it was everyone else that changed, when in fact it was you – but you didn’t learn that part until wayyyy later? Yep, me too…now how do I help her learn faster than I did? Maybe I don’t have to because she is way smarter than me.
So here’s what I’m gonna do…
My dearest, smart, beautiful, witty and funny, loving, giant ray of sunshine L…our home will always be your home. The four walls that make up our home may not always be the same but, the love for you will always be inside.
There will always be a place for you to sleep, a hot shower, clean towels, food, a roof (even if it’s a thatched one in Jamaica), a toilet, lots of love, lots of care, lots of advice (even when you don’t want it), lots of understanding, and of course rules. You know, my roof-my rules?
As you continue to grow and expand your horizons into the big scary world, we will appreciate and support you in what and who you are becoming. There are going to be lots of bumps, highs, lows, rainbows, storms, tears, laughs, aliens, and unicorns along the way.
All of those will continue to define who and what you want to be when you grow up. You will always be my little girl and that point in life when you have determined you are not that little girl anymore is never easy. Just remember to me, you will always be my little girl.
In the mean time, remember this, home is where your family is. This week has been a rough one for the entire country. As much as I don’t want to admit it, the tragedy in Vegas probably hit all of us harder than we are willing to acknowledge. Both my girls were born there and considered it their childhood home.
With that, our beautiful blended family will all enjoy this beautiful day, the weekend, and everyday after that knowing as a family we got this. It’s very interesting having 3 girls that all look exactly the same, in 3 very different stages of life. 3 very different social stages, 3 very different personalities…hang on and enjoy the ride. Thank God I have my hubby to ride with me and my mom, rides along too.
I’ll tell you what’s on MY mind, Michelle.
YES Adulting sucks! No matter what age you are. (at 51 I am still learning) Thank you for sharing your challenges, your wisdom and your love you have for your family.
I think about when we worked together in Las Vegas. I am grateful that you recognized my abilities and helped me grow. What I know, and have experienced first hand from you is your girls are very lucky to have you as their momma. Also, I am so happy you found your guy. You deserve to be happy as you adult your way through life. Much Love to you and yours Michelle.
To my readers:
These days the world is tough, sad, frustrating, violent, confusing, and list of other adjectives I can’t think of right now. But it also is filled with hope, love, faith, belief, and beauty. I choose to hang on to these thoughts even when faced with horrible tragic acts like Vegas happen. Because if I start to believe there is no hope for our world, then there IS no hope.
Thanks for stopping by.